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Try to get an appointment with a social worker asap. Way to get help exists (more or less everywhere), but it's a real mess to find out how to get help, especially when you're struggling to survive. The job of social worker is to help you getting long term help so you can focus on emergency survival.
How did you end up homeless so quickly ? Are winter eviction legal in the UK ?
EDIT : There is a lot of smarter answer than mine in the comments.
The tenancy was in my mother's name. She tried to get me on it (she was seriously unwell just before she got covid) but died before it went through.
Speak to someone at your college or wherever it is you go for education. They should have mechanisms is place to help.
This is a really important point. Being in higher education is a big help. My partner works for a uni in the UK and they helped secure emergency housing for a student who’d been made homeless.
Hey, if you have a laptop/internet or can access at library, I can setup a project for you to do 2-3 hours of work a day (we will train you), and while it won't be much, but a recurring 500pound or so may help.
you're a G.
Formerly homeless here;
1. Keep your income secret from everyone especially other homeless people just trust me on this.
2. Apply for Food assistance or whatever the equivalent is in your town, you will NOT get out of homelessness without it.
3. Get real friendly
I will say that this might more apply to being homeless in the US I am not sure what kind of social safety nets exist in the UK, good luck.
Absolutely this..Keep your money a big secret...and also go to a construction building and ask about a job...I learned a valuable trade (after 6 months of doing absolute grunt work) that has gotten me off the street ( a co-worker noticed my situation and helped). BUDGET EVERYTHING. This is the hardest part, once you have money you will feel the need to spend it. And make friends find a support system...Have faith in yourself ,we are all cheering for you, and never give up when it gets hard, Because it will get hard. You are young...you have the world in front of you...Stay safe
I'm so sorry to hear this, I wish I could give you a big hug. My son is 18 and reading this has hit me straight in the heart. I was 18 when I had him and I didn't have a clue about anything. I've definitely learned some lessons over the years, including financially. Well done for thinking ahead, you're already on the right track.
My biggest mistake was getting into debt. Try not to, try to consider how important things you want are. I know that seems obvious but when finance is offered on things it's sometime hard to resist when you believe you'll find a way to repay.
Meal planning is a good way to budget. I also write all my finances on a calendar. Income on the left, outgoings on the right. This has been a great help to me to physically see where and when my money is going as I'm very forgetful. Forgetting one bill messes things up for me, so I've been using calenders like this for years.
I'm glad you have help in place. Never be too proud to except help, both financially and emotionally. You are going through a lot. A lot of pain and a lot of change. Talking to a professional to process this grief and adaptation would be a positive thing to consider too.
I'm wishing you the absolute best for the future. You're welcome to message me anytime.
> My biggest mistake was getting into debt. Try not to, try to consider how important things you want are.
Lots of wisdom in your whole comment, but I wanted to emphasize this part in particular. I've never been homeless, and even at my poorest I could have fallen back on my parents if I had to, but I think this advice is even more important for folks without a reliable safety net.
I was paycheck to paycheck for almost three years while earning my second degree, living in a slummy apartment, and delivering sandwiches full time. Anxiety was ever-present, I was deeply depressed, and the temptation to seek relief was overwhelming. I craved "normal" things that I really couldn't afford, like a slightly nicer bottle of gin once in a while, a new TV with my tax returns, etc. I borrowed more than I needed to pay for school in order to enjoy some semblance of comfortable living, and I'm still paying off those student loans ten years later.
On this subject, my advice to OP is to seek comfort in intangible things (human connections, for example) and resist the urge to ease your stress by buying things. Imagine a version of your life where you survive with the bare minimum and save every cent you can, and accept it as your temporary new normal. Commit to living without luxuries for a year or so, and you will thank yourself in the future. I traded my long term benefit for short term gratification, and because of that I'm way, way behind where I should be. For someone more vulnerable then I ever was, I can only imagine that mental shift is even more important.
u/tangerine_kitchen: I'm really sorry for your loss, I wish you the best, and I hope the responses to your post help! Never underestimate the value of connecting with strangers when you're lonely or in need. It is *always* better than trying to carry that weight on your own.
I’m sorry to hear this. You might try r/povertyfinance I hope you find a safe place to stay and I wish you
The best of luck
Firstly, I’m sorry to hear about your situation.
I can see others have provided some suggestions regarding finances etc, so to prevent over-saturating, I’ll focus on homeless supports available to you in the UK.
The first thing you should do if you haven’t already is register as homeless with your local council. This will allow them to log that you’re homeless and attempt to verify this - it’s crucial that you let them know where you will be sleeping so they know where to find you.
Once verified, the Council will refer you to their homeless support agencies and during the current COVID situation, they aim to temporary house anyone who is homeless. These support agencies will also assist you in sourcing more permanent accommodation.
Regarding local supports - this varies from area to area, so without knowing the general county that you’re in, I cannot provide you with specific agencies to contact.
I hope this provides some initial steps for you to follow to gain further support 🙂
Source - me: I work in the UK Criminal Justice System with current experience of working with and supporting people who find themselves homeless.
Tagging onto the most helpful comment here to say **CITIZENS ADVICE BUREAU.** Every town in the UK has an office, they are completely free, they will know exactly what you are entitled to, they will help you manage any inherited debts, they will write letters for you.
ANYONE needing help with finance/housing/legal rights in the UK can access this service for FREE. A quick google tells me they also help with immigration and employment.
While we're on the subject if anyone needs free employment legal advice ACAS can tell you what your rights are and what you can do about it, whether you employer or employee.
If you google ACAS the top two results are ADS for LAWYERS do not click them, click my link right here with ACAS in the domain name.
Sorry for your loss
You will probably be on Universal Credit. old benefits (Income support) had an exemption for under 20 year olds in full time education who started that education before they were 18. So I would imagine UC has a similar exemption from having to look for work.
If you need money now you can ask UC for an advance but you will have to pay it back. The hostel you are in should be able to help find more permanent accommodation.
Stretch your income by buying rice and pasta in as big as a bag as you can find, 5kg - 10kg rice in Asian shops will last a long time. When you buy food always read the price label they will say 75p/100g choose the cheapest.
Then go to Home Bargains or B&M to buy tins of sardines and cheap tins of tuna . Fish and rice to me, it tastes delicious, I hope so for you too.
For the pasta, Lidl and Aldi & B&M and Home Bargains will all sell pasta sauces. When buying ham in Aldi and Lidl and Home Bargains you can get "Ham Trimmings" 400g for half the price of the other sliced hams.
Home Bargains and B&M also sell ramen noodles (chicken is the best) for 40p
Learn what times the shops put reduced food labels, always check the reduced food cabinet you will find real bargains 20p for a good meal sometimes.
You can also do fried rice, buy light soy sauce (not dark soy sauce) from asian shops in 1 litre bottle. Buy a wok from asian shop, heat the wok super, super hot before adding anything, put cold cooked rice in the wok, break it up then add a quarter to half a mug of water, the water will turn to steam and will super heat the rice in minutes. When the rice is hot add a splash of oil, add frozen peas and chopped veg, crack an egg straight into the now hot rice an stir it in, add soy sauce. Add anything you want to this, like frozen cooked shrimps or pieces of cooked meat. Don't add raw meat or raw shrimp only cooked meat/shrimp. The raw egg is ok because it will cook on the hot rice. The frozen stuff you add will just melt and then heat up in the rice, keep stirring and adding oil as necessary.
When you have your own place, if you see food bargains, buy them all and freeze them.
Drink water, it's free.
When you have your own place you can buy pots and pans and plates and cutlery from High street charity shops. If you need furniture there are also charity shops for that too.
Charity shops for clothes and don't be afraid to ask for a reduction, they will knock off ££'s just because you ask.
What town are you in ?
Consider the armed forces the Royal Navy.
You can report your mum's death to DWP on
If you cannot do that, you can call DWP bereavement line, 0800 731 0469, to cancel your mother's benefits. It is very much worth calling this number even if your mother's benefits have already stopped, ask them you want to do a BD8 form. This entitles you to any unpaid benefits the DWP owes your mother. The DWP might owe your mother a lot of money. I stress the word **might** but the DWP might easily owe £20,000 to your mother. This assumes, of course, your mum was on benefits.
Talk to your mum's bank about her death and that you want to claim anything she has in her account. If any payments were credited to your mum's account AFTER she died, don't spend that money, it will probably have to be paid back, but you may be entitled to a pro-rata payment up to the date she died.
How much £ did your mum have?
Was she still married?
If she was still married her partner will be the rightful heir even if they were separated.
If she was not married you will be the rightful heir.
You can PM me if you like. I will help you.
Tesco Asda and marksys do their reductions at about 7pm, if that's any help to get you started. Sainsbury's and M&S put their reductions on the shelf with the other food that isn't reduced, Asda and Tesco separate theirs onto separate shelves at the ends of aisles usually.
Speak to Citizens Advice, it's free, if you haven't already.
Lots of solicitors will give you a free half hour consult if you do need legal advice. See how much of it you might be able to do on your own (if you live in England, because there's no legal aid) or with legal aid if you live in Wales/Scotland/NI.
I'm so sorry to hear about your mum.
You need to reach out to your form tutor and year head at school. They will be able to liaise with whoever it is at school that deals with student wellbeing and put you in touch with agencies that can help. Use this resource whilst you can, as it'll obviously be lost when you leave education. By getting it in place now, it'll help you long term.
Yes, this is important, you're still education so they're obligated to help you. Don't be embarrassed, literally ask for help from every adult in your school or college
Also former homeless here.
I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your mother. I cannot imagine how scary it must feel to lose such an important person. I am sure you are quite scared and want to go into action. You may also feel like you do not have time to grieve because you have pressing concerns and that makes sense.
Use your determination, anger and sadness to fuel you. Reach out to trusted sources such as professors, social workers, whoever is there in the UK to help provide assistance and be persistent do not give up.
I relied solely on food stamps here in the US for a while and for the first time in my life I had a steady source of food. It saved me from my eating disorder mentally and helped me have a healthy pregnancy. Which I also needed Medicaid for.
There is no shame in asking for help because it can propel you forward. You can help others and give back when you are able to get your head above water.
Agree with the other commenter who said to keep you finances to yourself once you have income. If anyone asks you for more than you can give say” I’m working towards getting my feet on the ground and am unable
To help you the way I want to at the moment”
You will get through this and be stronger for it.
The uncertain times I have been through truly shaped me and affect how I approach almost all things now with a little bit of courage.
You are so loved and appreciated and you will get through this, there’s no way except through it. Put on your tough gear and just go through the fire you’ll come out stronger I promise.
Call everyone in your family, call your parent's friends you've known since you were a kid, and find a place to spend 3-4 days at once so that you can have clean clothes and shower everyday. And find a job. Any job. Then find a social shelter if you have run out of places where you can stay 3-4 days at a time, until you have enough money to find place of your own. Look for co-renting.
This is a crisis, not the new/future you. So you have to deal with it like a crisis. Even if the job you find sucks, and the co-rented apartment is shitty, that is not a problem for now. You have to stabilise your situation immediately, to not fall on the other side where it's much harder to come from.
Deal with it like your house is burning: take action now, relentlessly, until you have a home, and a revenue. Then build from that.
I second this.
OP, Even if it’s incredibly awkward or uncomfortable to do so, contact family members (even if you’re not close), friends, even your mother’s friends to find a place to stay and ask for help. You are so young and you don’t have to do this on your own. I think you’ll be surprised at how generous people really can be in a crisis. There’s no shame in asking for help. If you still can’t find help or a place to stay, go to a church.
I don’t know if you are involved in church in any way, but many churches are more than willing to help in this sort of situation. At my church we’ve had people walk in off the streets with nothing and the church sets them up with a place to stay, a job, even social services. You can just walk in and say “I’m 18, my mother has just died, I’m homeless and I’m alone. Can you please help me?” 9 times out of 10 they will help. (And if they don’t, well they suck at being Christians and go to a different church)
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about your mum. Consider applying for university, I get that there will be months till it starts, but once it does start, you will be in a good position. You will need to apply quickly though.
This is advice specific to the UK
1. find one in a cheap city with low cost of living.
2. you will pretty much guarantee to get the maximum maintenance loan.
3. choose something with good job prospects, this could involve something more practical, or a scientific subject or maths. if you dont think of urself as intelligent, thats fine too, but choose something you will pass and not get kicked out.
4. For over the long summer breaks: you could either stay on campus, there will be hardship funds to help you out. If you make good friends early on, you could potentially stay with them over the summer, maybe a different friend for each month. There are services which will hold your stuff in storage in the university city that you are from.
5. work hard and be proactive in finding internships and stuff, go to the careers advisor early on. they will help you set up your future so you can find a good job immediately after graduation.
Thousand times yes to all of this!
A really rare opportunity to have schooling taken care of and better opportunity to take care of yourself. In the US, same story as OP, my group of friends got a a recently orphaned friend through high school and into a university.
He technically was orphaned at 17 (junior year), it sucked really bad. Dodging the foster system he just stayed with us, at one point he lived with all of us. He went to college for basically free and what he couldn’t pay was on loans. 6 years later with a masters in teaching at the same school system he graduated from. We still meet up around the holidays, coolest thing to see him happy.
You might try asking how to get poverty assistance on r/unitedkingdom.
Sorry to read about your difficult situation and even though I don't know you, I'll extend my condolences for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and your current situation. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through
There's been lots of helpful links given, and I'd also suggest r/legaladviceUK; they're pretty helpful over there, and as someone else mentioned you might have legal rights you're not aware of x
Sorry about your mom :( Depending on where you live look for organizations that offer help to those who need it in your community ie clothing, food, shelter, etc. Before covid I used to volunteer for an organization like this, we served free meals to the public out of a church 2 times daily, was a “anyone can show up/no questions asked” policy just to offer meals to the community and those who needed it. I know they offered other services as well and have updated their procedures to be covid friendly so hopefully there are options like this to help you out where you live. Good luck!
Everyone else has pointed you to excellent sources of info. I'm going to try to provide some specifics here that should be helpful.
I'm making the assumption that you have somewhat cheap and reliable access to the Internet, since you're on reddit. If that's not the case, a lot of what I typed isn't going to be useful for you.
What are you studying in school?
If you're doing software development or anything related to computing, you can likely get a job *right now*. It won't be glamorous, and it'll be a job in and of itself to get your foot in the door, but it's definitely a possibility.
Any other fields of study will be a case by case basis, obviously.
Sites like Fiverr and Amazon's Mechanical Turk can provide supplemental income if you have a few extra hours to spare. I'm unsure on how this extends outside of the US, as both are US companies. I know I have seen references to similar programs in the UK, but nothing is coming up in a cursory Google search.
I mention below that you can make money off of crafts if you put some effort into learning them. See more below.
If you need to do something that you'd have to pay for, learn how to do it on your own. You can cut your own hair, you can fix your own car, you can prepare your own food. All of that will save you some money, letting you squirrel some away. It adds up. There are plenty of subreddits to learn these things, and YouTube has *excellent* educational content (and a lot of bad content).
If you need to learn something specific, any of those subreddits can usually point you in the right direction. EDIT: If you're looking for basic life skills, like cooking, cleaning, etc. feel free to DM me, and I can point you to some specific channels. I learned how to do everything I do, from home repair to cooking, because of YouTube (and other sites from back before YouTube was a thing, but for the past 16 years, it's been YouTube 😉).
EDIT: In addition to life skills on YouTube, you can get a world-class education on *basically any academic topic* through https://edx.org. They offer paid certificates, but *all* of their content, from schools such as Harvard, MIT, and Oxford, is completely free to audit. There are other options, like https://coursera.org, but I haven't used that one in particular in years, and am not sure of their current monetization model. EDIT: Yeah, Coursera still has plenty of free content!
#Work Hard, Play Hard
Find a free or exceptionally cheap hobby. Leisure is important, *especially* when free time is a rare commodity.
You can play chess for free on https://chess.com or https://lichess.org. Feel free to friend me on either, same name as here on reddit!
You can play Hearthstone for free through battle.net. DM Me if you'd like to friend up.
There are a multitude of free FPS, strategy, arcade and adventure video games, if you're into that sort of thing. EDIT: Feel free to DM me for examples. It doesn't matter what platform you're playing on, I ~~have lists~~ can find you something for everything from Android and iOS to the Switch.
EDIT: Quick shoutout to the Internet Archive's Internet Arcade, where you can play just about any old video game on just about any platform: https://archive.org/details/internetarcade
Retro gaming in general, assuming you're using an emulator, is effectively free when combined with archived works. I *won't* tell you how you can play other, even more modern games for free, but I will tell you that there is a whole world of people who are more than happy to tell you all about it. Just be careful where you browse!
Knitting or crocheting can be very cheap and very rewarding, and you can use them to potentially make money in the mid- to long-term.
EDIT: Other forms of arts and crafts, such as charcoal drawing, can also be pretty cheap if you do it right. Between my wife and I, I can probably drum up good resources for knitting, crocheting, painting, drawing, woodworking/woodcarving (I recommend the latter while you're not in your own place, unless there's a decent makerspace in your area), and model making. Note that making practical things, like clothing, is much more likely to make you some money. Obviously.
#Personal Finance BS
EDIT: I moved this stuff to the very bottom, because it's the least likely to be useful to you. Maybe it'll help someone who ends up on this post from searching for things.
I don't know how credit reporting works in the EU or in the UK (I imagine it's slightly more sane but still a nightmare), but if it's anything like the US, if get a credit card, pay it off *immediately* whenever you use it.
Having a good credit score still means something, at least over here. These days, my wife and I put everything on credit cards, which we pay off immediately. Because of cash back offers, we get a discount on life. Try to get there if you can. 2-6% off of *all of your expenses* adds up very quickly.
NerdWallet can help you find one that's right for you, assuming their UK content is as high quality as their US content: https://nerdwallet.com/uk/
*Do not get a credit card you cannot afford to pay off in three payments.* If you make £300 a month, your credit card should have a credit limit of £900, for example.
Apart from all that, I'm reticent to give you much more advice, since there is a distinct divide between the world of UK and US finances. Everything here is something that I learned the hard way when I moved out and married my wife.
Apologies for any typos, initially sent from mobile.
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Where abouts in the UK are you? I might be able to get some help sorted for you.
I was on my own at 17yo, I would start by applying for welfare and getting on the waitlist for RGI housing.
What is your primary source of income? Can you work?
Don't let other homeless people know you have income.
Shelters will be your best bet until you can afford to rent a room, and there are lots of employment support programs and food programs (food pantries, soup kitchens, etc) the shelter may have these resources for you or you can Google them.
You could try panhandling in the meantime to keep your belly full and maybe afford a AirBNB or hotel room for a night, etc.
Under NO CIRCUMSTANCES should you get into the sex trade. Don't be a stripper, don't be a prostitute, don't sell yourself for sex in ANY WAY. It's an extremely slippery slope that can quickly get you into more debt, drug abuse, physical (sexual) abuse among other issues. It's easy money, but that's because it comes at a greater cost.
You can do this. You can get past this. Don't give up. Cherish yourself, believe in yourself and dedicate yourself to your studies. You're young and full of promise. I'm deeply sorry for your loss but know that this isn't the end for you, it's only the beginning. I'm cheering you on.
I'm not really qualified to help, and this advice might sound like I'm suggesting to take advantage of a community, BUT
The Sikh Communities of the World are usually very friendly towards people, and will provide shelter and food (i think) for quite a while with no questions asked (i think)
As far as I'm aware, it's also not a ploy to convert you to their beliefs, but rather just part of their religion to be kind and welcoming to everyone, no matter who they are.
Edit: also, i apparently skimmed over that part of the post the first time reading it... My condolences for what happened to your mother... :(
I have heard this too. Great advice.
Get food assistance. Don’t start using drugs or alcohol! I’ve heard so many stories of people getting hooked on drugs after becoming homeless for a short period. When you’re spending your time with other homeless people, you can pick up their habits especially when it can provide a temporary escape to a shitty situation.
Be strong, you’ll get through this. Stay clean (like physically wash yourself) and work on building skills you can use for a job. There are probably more safety nets over there than here in the US, find them and take advantage of them! Many homeless people here don’t really take advantage of the safety net usually because it’s a) difficult and complex, b) mental illness, c) drug / alcohol addiction.
Spend time with people who are going to make you better. Don’t spend your time with people who have been on the streets for years. It might sound harsh but if you don’t want to end up like them you should focus on yourself. Once you’re back on your feet you can come back and help them if you want. Best of luck.
Just sent over 500 quid. Good luck and please stay safe until you are on your feet again!
Definitely apply right away for job seekers. They can help you get benefits and stuff. Perhaps consider applying for university? At university you can get a student loan to cover your rent and even hardship funds. If you are homeless they may provide you with accommodation during holidays or let you stay at your room during holidays. If you go the job seekers route they can help you make a CV and apply for work experience. Volunteering is a good way to get work experience and possibly a job. Some places might let you sleep somewhere in exchange for volunteer work. I also suggest searching for your local homeless shelter and food bank. Maybe try asking a church for help or other place of worship near you? Many religions offer help and support for people in need even if they are not religious.
A can opener is your most valuable tool and learning where you can easily access a microwave will be a gamechanger- you'd be surprised- they're sometimes in public eating areas at Target for instance. Tuna can be eaten directly out of the can, as can a lot of things if they have to be. Don't neglect the canned fruit- the sugar is good for you but so are other vitamins there you're not likely to get otherwise. Look at camping supplies for easily compact silverware sets, etc, even very cheap foam mats.
I wish you well. Utilize the local library for resources but if you have a United Way (most likely if you're in the States) then calling 211 will put you with an operator that can tell you about local organizations, their hours, etc. Stuff like clothing closets for borrowing nicer clothes for job interviews.
In fact, all tinned food can be eaten without heating up, it just may not be your favourite way to eat it. Tinned food is cooked before being tinned.
Find a soup line, anything you can do to not buy food will make a huge difference. If you only have a little money, try to spend it on things you can reuse. A good backpack if you don't have it, clothes to keep you warm, toiletries. Once your benefits come through, you should have food stamps and a cash stipend, so you'll have to tough it out a bit til then, but it's not as bad as you might think
Most shelters will have showers you can use, cleanliness is healthiness, and being clean shaven will make you more approachable should you need help with something.
And lastly, ask for help. You need it and that's okay.
One idea you might consider, when the lockdown is over, is to look for a job in a pub that offers accommodation. Plenty of landlords will be sympathetic to your situation and you will be able to work and have a roof over your head.
Sorry about your loss :/
In Scotland at least (not sure about the rest of the UK) there are programmes for supported accommodation while you are vulnerable as you are. You are essentially a housemate with a supportive household (a friend of mine applied and is going through the vetting/training programme just now). You learn about running a home within a supportive environment.
Access charities for help and advice. Being in shared accommodation, the biggest saving is shared utility bills and food through economy of scale. Buying and cooking for several people at a time is cheaper than solo.
Citizen's Advice Bureau can help. As can your education provider. Check out opportunities to flat-share. Check if there are halls of residence (if sixth form/FE/HE). Most education places have hardship grants available for students in sudden positions of hardship like you find yourself just now. Stick at education - it gives you your best route out of poverty.
Also, this is a really tough hand you have been dealt. You are resilient. You are not alone. Soon, you will be able to look back on these days and recognise just how amazing you are to have got through it all. Right now, it will just seem like one hurdle after another. But you are getting over each one.
learn to cook cheaply, most cheap stuff doesn't taste too bad when fried, also get salt and pepper, it helps with the taste, buy just a few basic cheap universal spices and try to stretch them out, you don't need to actually add a ton of spices.
bread and cheap ham will take you a long way if you know what to do with it... pick a staple food combo and find as many creative ways to prepare it as you can, boiled, fried, mashed... and mix it up so that you don't get bored of it.
I am so very sorry for your loss, I don't know what to say to you apart from every parent reading this wishes they could help you and hug you. Internet hugs, try to look after yourself, let your friends support you. Your friends' parents will want to help you, accept their offers.
Speak to your safeguarding person at school/college, even though you are 18 they will have contacts that can help you. If you previously planned to study beyond 18, speak to your careers person, get advice on funding, you might still be able to do it, don't give up on your future just because your present situation is bad.
You might want to try posting this on r/uklegaladvice asking about what benefits you might be entitled to and further advice on where you might stand re the lease on your home. Just ask what you need to know from a legal point of view, there are some very helpful and knowledgable people on that sub.
r/UKFrugal might be able to help, and r/EatCheapAndHealthy can be useful for meal ideas - there's a UK version of that sub as well. Get your food shop from Lidl or Aldi, it's good food, great value. You don't need fancy meals every night but try to get some fruit or veg every day and remember protein. Beans and lentils if you're veggie (or even if you're not), things like tuna, eggs or ham are easy protein.
If you ever in your life need a hot meal, see if you can find a local Gurdwara. Anyone can go in for a cooked (veggie) meal if they need one. Cover head, remove shoes be respectful, you will be more than welcome, whatever your faith, no religious pressure. I think Hindu temples and maybe mosques also do this, not sure, but bear in mind just in case you can't face cooking one day.
The distant relatives that get in touch in the coming months - keep their numbers even if you're not on "speaking terms". You never know when you might need or want to speak to them.
That's all I have. Look after yourself in any way you can. If you need to talk, Cruise Bereavement have a helpline, the Samaritans are also there, your friends want to help you. Internet hugs.
Are they allowed to remove people from their homes this quickly just because one person dies?
It sounds like it has already happened....
I would encourage you to go to a church and ask for assistance until you get through school. The Seventh Day Adventist would be my first choice. They are the kindest, good hearted people you’ll ever meet.
You can do it yourself but you will have more advantages if you have a family sponsor you. The care you need is minimal so you really wouldn’t be a burden. Seeing a young person working hard to make a good life is very rewarding.
* Don't leave the residence, you will have rights as a tenant, contact citizens advice.
* Contact Centrepoint, they are a UK homeless charity
* In regards to food, find out your local food parcel places.
* If you can't afford food, talk to your college etc
* As they are sorting out benefits, You need to stay in the house, get housing benefit, and explain the situation to the landlord that you can pay X via housing benefit.
I work/have worked in several organisations in the U.K. that you will need to access. So I’m sure you’ve had a lot of advice but it works differently here than the US, so here goes.
As you are in full time education in the U.K. there is cause for your education provider to enact safeguarding protocols. Social services should be involved so if your school/college don’t contact them you need to. Their will be a duty line for SS on your local council website. SS are not bad just overstretched so you may not get the full support, but they have a duty of care.
If you were in council housing or housing association you may be eligible to take over the lease. If you were private you still shouldn’t have been evicted yet. Contact Shelter, they are the U.K. specialists. You may have a local branch, if not google the National number. They are housing specialists.
Make sure everyone you speak to knows you’re still in full time education ok? This gives you a level of protection, or at least it should.
Other helpful organisations are Citizens Advice, all offices are closed to the public currently but google your local branch and call them. They often work with lots of different organisations in your area and may be able to connect you to various services you don’t know about, including the council. They are completely independent and free to access them so use them, even if only to double check what you’ve been told us correct. Sometimes councils/benefit offices etc don’t always provide the best services.
Lastly ask your school or college to refer you urgently for grief support/counselling. I know you are focused on your physical survival, but your mental health is just as important. If not Cruse are grief specialists, they may be able to help you.
I’m so sorry for your loss, I wish I could just wrap you up and look after you right now. I wish you all the hope for the future.
Sorry to hear that, my goodness.
But listen, do not give up. You’re young and I know a lot of people who were in a similar situation and persevered. Number one this is try to stay out of danger as much as possible. During the day, if possible, maybe hang out in a mall if they’re open in the UK (I’m in Canada and they aren’t so idk how it is there). Apply for university if possible, if not maybe the military.
You are getting a lot of replies from the US.
You are in the UK, and while you were not on the lease, you are a resident in the home where you lived with your mum. Talk to Shelter ASAP - they might be able to help keep the house.
Sorry for your loss.
Ramen and Strangers Living Quarters are your best friends. Damn I'm real sorry man you'll make it have faith brother
I’d say apply for work study at your college if there’s a program like it and become best friends with he finance officers- they know about every program there probably is. Also contact your college and tell them about both the death of your mother and your situation they should be made aware in case your grades suffer ( but considering that’s now your ticket to a well paying job it’s priority) and lastly if they offer any sort of therapy I highly suggest you sign up, your mental health just took a big hit and it would be good to be proactive about it
Not sure if it’s possible because of Covid, but joining a gym can be a good plan. Especially if you have a car. You can shower and hang out exercising and charge your phone.
My water heater went out. I had a gym membership and used the shower there daily for a couple of weeks. I’d never noticed before, but I met a bunch of people who were basically living in their cars and using the gym as a way to stay clean and employable.
I talked to one woman who was working as a waitress. Homeless because of a domestic situation, but saving every penny. I never would have guessed.
Sorry about what happened it's a bummer that you lost someone close to you, but this is what my uncle did/or tips he gave me when he became homeless for 4 months after he got laid off by his company:
- Try to keep your source of income a secret, especially to other homeless people. They might take advantage of you
- Trust no one except the Social Worker or a person that is legit gonna help you. The street messed up some people who will try to put a leash on you
- Avoid debt as much as possible, My uncle got a $100 debt back in the day, took him 5 death threats before he payed it full. Save some extra money, try putting it on your shoes or somewhere safe tht you bring everyday. A measly $10 can get you full for a day.
- Accept any job, Time is precious and the energy your food gives you can't be wasted. Look for easy to do jobs, like Package lifter, or Lawn Mower. Easy job for no experience.
Idk if this works (because this is in the Philippines but my uncle did this and it helped him):
Once you have your new apartment or Home
- Download Facebook and go to the marketplace, Sort for Free and look for Stuff that are essential to you, My uncle got a Microwave and Used Nokia flip phone. The Nokia flip phone is what he used to contact us
Try to be friendly to others who might help you
- Look for others who might look out for you in return, but don't give away your trust easily, get to know them, create a bond with them, and make connections
Get canned goods
- There are some canned goods that pack a lot of protein and nutrients. Try sardines or beans.
Sleep in a well monitored area
- Just sleep in a shelter if you want to or if you didn't have the chance sleep near a church or community center, people there are really nice and they might give you some money to keep you going
Clothes and Tools
- Try gathering clothes at a dollar store, because here we call it " ukay ukay " and $10 can get you a months worth of clothes and undies
- Tools is a can opener, they also always have that tiny cork opener that you can use as a shank if any person were to hurt you, ripping of your clothes or theirs in situations might help as well and buy a tiny flashlight that require batteries to work, get a bottle and fill it with white powder bleach, the light from the small flashlight will bounce of the white powder and you can make a beacon with much stronger light
- Also wear Neon Green at night, so people can see you if you get jumped or taken advantage.
Also don't give up, There's always a light at the end of a dark tunnel. You'll get through shit no matter what, Dont let someone or something break your spirit
Anyways God bless :)
I'm so sorry for what happened to you.... I lived on very little for a while, here are some ideas:
Food banks or Charity organisations who got free food from food banks often deal out regularly bags of food stuff or warm meals for free. Search around!
I managed to get an agreement with supermarkets to come and pick up fruits, veggies, bakeries and other stuff that they can't sell anymore, but is still OK. After a bit of cleaning and cutting out the not so nice parts they are perfectly safe to eat. You might need to ask more that one shop, but then you will have a steady stream of food.
There might be charity orgs dealing out free clothes. If not, there must be a platform (website or FB group) where ppl give away stuff. I found one such in *every* city I lived. My bet is that there is one where you live too. People have waaay more clothes than they need so it generates tons of give away.
If you can afford it - and if they are still open during COVID - get a monthly membership in the cheapest gym. It provides a warm place to stay for an hour or two, possibly wifi, charging possibility for your devices, and warm shower. They have long opening times usually.
I wish you the best!!
Go to your council and see if you can get on the housing list. You should be able to receive Universal Credit which should help with finances. Search for local food banks if you need food.
I used to work for a housing association so DM me if you need any info on housing etc.
If you are in UK Further education then see if you can talk to your university/college about hardship funds. The bar has been set universally lower this year.
Start college. Explain your situation. They'll pay for a dorm and food
There’s this guy on fb I think YouTube also all he doesn’t is go around the UK and eat as much as possible with little as possible, he presents various apps and websites that might be helpful
Edit his YouTube channel is called The Hack
If you're in the UK, you're probably eligible for universal income. Get on it and see what they say.
op. Use the UK subs that are available to you. You will get a lot of useless answers here
all the comments here are advice, sadly i don't have any, but i wanna tell you i'm sorry about your mom...
Here is a post to help you. A 17 yo was kicked out of the house. Here is their advice. Save their post. [Past Reddit post. please save](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/k6ga0r/i_was_kicked_out_of_home_at_17_heres_three_things/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Plus join r/teenagers
Sorry you lost your place. I would have tried to find roommates to move in the pay the mortgage.
As to a job. Can you be a nanny? That would include room and board.
My family basically works in food service. Very necessary job but lots of work physically.
Good luck. My condolences on the death of your mom.
Sincere condolences. Praying for you, and God bless you friend.
Definitely utilize your local public library! We often had homeless folks who would come spend the day just to get out of the weather but they often know of free food resources in the area, public transportation options, shelters and other resources.
Also look in your local paper for churches and other organizations that are offering free meals. You can feasible line up a hot meal a few days a week for zero cost. Fast food may feel affordable at the time, but it adds up fast.
I would highly recommend you let your GP know of your situation and ask for an appointment with the practice social prescriber / link worker- they can often point you in the direction of services you would otherwise have no idea existed in your local area.
r/vagabonds is full of people who know how to live without a house or much money. Generally a kind community, but remember that trust should be earned not assumed.
I was in a similar situation and was in a youth homeless hostel when i was 20 - a little older than you, and 20 years ago, but for what it's worth:
Speak to your school/college as a matter of urgency, get them to refer you to EVERYTHING.
There should be support workers at the hostel if it's council run - talk to them, get them to help you apply for ALL THE BENEFITS.
Also, contact your local council for support, try and get a social worker and keep emailing them as much as possible.
Contact the Citizens Advice bureau
In respect of making money last:
Depending on if their open atm markets are best for cheap toiletries and fruit/veg, but often you need to have a wander around the whole thing first just to check out prices and where has what. If you're able to spend £10-£20 in one go lots of marketstalls (esp indoor markets) have offers where you can get loads of frozen stuff that can keep you going for ages.
After markets close i used to wander around and pick up discarded/waste veg - if you do that clean it and cook it VERY WELL
Wilkinson tends to do the cheapest toiletries and cleaning products- supermarkets were way more expensive in my experience
Value noodles. Value noodles. Value noodles.
Late in the day supermarkets reduce their fresh stuff - it's debatable as to what they'll have, but generally worth a nosey as you can usually get some form of cut meat/cheese/etc really cheap.
Something that saved my ass many a time was frozen mash, veg and gravy - for less than a fiver you can keep going for a week. I used to count out the pellets of potato to eke them out til payday.
If you can afford to invest in spices then do - it's amazing the difference they can make, as a tin of chopped tomatoes and half an onion can become lot more edible.
Find your local asian shop - they often have AMAZING deals on milk and fruit/veg - ten years ago i could get 8 pints of whole milk for a quid. It's amazing the difference being able to live on tea and 20p packets of biscuits makes. Spices and tinned tomatoes/veg are far cheaper there too. On a similar note, tinned veg in the world foods section of the supermarket can often be cheaper (3 tins for a pound)
You will get through this - it's a horrible position to be in, but make the most of the support that's available. But keep hassling the council- they're obligated to help. Your landlord shouldn't have been able to evict you.
I spent 7 years as a wanderer. Let me tell you it's not easy but you can make it easier depending on how you treat yourself and others. I hope this small amount of advice may help.
Don't buy any food you will need to have refrigerated. If you don't have a nut allergy start finding a place that sells nuts in bulk and start learning to like them if you don't. They can be cheap and will provide a good amount of protein and you get sodium through that. There are some nut butters that are reasonably priced that will have quite a bit of vitamins in it. Buy crackers or bread to put it on. This will stretch you money for food.
Start drinking Only water if you already don't. Cut out any thing high in sugars and acids. You want to protect your teeth as much as possible. Eliminating unhealthy foods that will destroy your teeth is easier than getting dental work done.
Don't hang around people in a similar situation if you can help it. If you expose yourself to other people going through the same thing; that will become your life. Rather make friends and be real (genuinely) kind to people already working that have housing and stability.
They can be your life saver at times and will be able to offer more help than someone who's in your same shoes. Who knows it might be your next permanent home. Never be afraid to ask for help
Start learning to become handy at things. You can offer services and this will save your butt if you are unemployed.
Don't burn yourself out. Take breaks but Never stop, keep on keeping on.
Nothing amazing but stuff I've seen on reddit before if I'm not too late! You can get a free shower at the gym, and if you're lucky perhaps a place to rest your head.
Go to a local church, they don't care if you're religious or not. If you're a religion outside Christianity you may be slightly safer avoiding a protestant church (coming from a protestant raised boy lol). They will have food for you 99.999% of the time and may also provide shelter. Not necessarily in the church either! Churches often have a Deacon's house or something of the sort!
A gym membership can help you a lot, especially at a 24 hour gym. Showers, a place to go at night where no one will bother you, if you cozy up with the staff or learn the place’s routines you could even sleep there, and if you have a car they’re usually cool with members parking overnight, so you’re guaranteed a safe parking lot where you won’t be hassled by cops or security guards. Outlets to charge your phone or laptop if you have them, free cold water in summertime, usually free WiFi, and all for like $15/month. Plus you’ll be able to work out if you want, and one of the understated struggles of the homeless is the unmitigated boredom they all suffer through with no means to entertain themselves. A little workout keeps your mind and body busy for an hour or so.
It’s not gonna get you off the streets but it’ll make your time on them significantly more comfortable.
Oh, and stay the fuck away from drugs, even soft ones that I totally endorse like pot and booze. Keep your mind clear and sharp and don’t waste a penny on anything you don’t need.
Gyms are closed in the UK until at least April.
Absolute essentials to have in your posession at all times:
- Heavy winter jacket. One night on the streets or in an apartment with no power could do you in. Being able to regulate your body's temperature is vital to survival; being in poverty means, often times, the promise of a roof and heat is unstable.
- Box of crackers (Saltines, Ritz, or my favorite: Chicken-in-a-Biscuit! I don't know what you have in the UK). Crackers are dry, so they don't go bad as long as they stay dry. If your income is not promised, having an extra meal on hand at all times might just be what gets you through. OR, if you have to walk somewhere, the carbs can give you stamina and help battle fatigue.
- Bottle of water. Have at least one, always full. Dehydration can send you to the hospital; even if you have healthcare to cover that bill, it still could mean missing work/job interviews, etc.
- Razor (If you are a guy), soap, shampoo, 1 fresh change of work clothes. Being presentable will go a long way to helping you secure employment.
- Smartphone, charger. Even if you can't keep up with data payments, you can still use WIFI to stay in touch with contacts, apply for jobs, etc. This is how you will couch surf if you are living from house-to-house for any period of time. Communication = shelter and income.
- Pocket knife / multitool (with can opener preferable) if you are allowed one; this is for opening food packages, even preparing food, etc.
- Flashlight (torch) and spare batteries; MANY uses for one, chief of which is visibility if walking on the road at night.
- A quality bag to hold it all in! Preferably a backpack you can keep close to you at all times. Especially if you gotta pickup and go.
This is sort of an extreme scenario. This is NOT a complete list, and I have no idea what you already have/don't have, but I would make these my top priority as "survival" material to have on hand at all times. I don't suspect you are at this place now, and pray you don't end up there! I reckon you're safer from "living on the streets" in the UK than folks here in the US; but being in poverty means you are only ever one missed bill or accident or missed uber away from being there.
This also gives you a buffer - say you are getting kicked out of one place, and another place will take you but only open up in a month - this will get you through that month. Or help you survive where you are at if power or water gets shut off while you pay a bill. I *think* it's illegal for landlords to do that, but that doesn't always stop them, so you still gotta be prepared for it.
This also gives you some CONFIDENCE. Having a PLAN for "roughing it" means less panic sets in when suddenly it becomes a possibility. You will be less apt to make decisions out of panic (like staying with someone you are uncomfortable staying with for a night). And if you never do need them, the practice is good for anybody, and knowledge can help other poor folks you meet!
I myself am doing quite well now, but I STILL carry these things everywhere I go (nowadays I have extras that stay in my vehicle).
I hope this adds perspective!
Is joining the army an option for you? I mean, not for the rest of your life. But you could go there for a fee years, you would always have a roof above your head, food everyday, and you would earn money. Save that money so you have something to work with when you’re in the normal world again.
If you are a hard worker, learn fast, and are highly motivated... move to San Jose, CA and I'll give you a job! Seriously, DM me for details. Dead serious
I was in a similar situation at 17. Had no idea what to do. Popped into the army careers office and it changed my life. I did 8 years in the Royal Engineers and in that time learned about the world and how to be the best person I could be. I'm 40 now but it shaped my life in ways I never thought would have been possible.
Give it a shot and pop in. You have absolutely nothing to lose by having a chat with them.
Alright mate, I was in a similar situation to you when I was 16, a pretty long time ago, but still, some things don't change.
I'm gonna tell you what I've learned so far, some of it may help, most of it won't.
When I was really young and new to this, I had some weird pride shit about not going to the job centre and getting what I could. Looking back, that was mental on 2 counts. Firstly, that is exactly what the system is designed for, and, secondly, if all goes well you will have paid it back many times over by the time you are old and fat like me.
Nextly, benefits will only get you so far. You need to take this time to access as much learning as you can, as the free education opportunities will start disappearing pretty quick. Grab it. The more you grab the easier it is to move on up.
Boredom. Nobody warned me about the crushing ennui of being homeless. In a shelter is crap. Renting a room is dull as fuck. And try to be near a library, they are saviours. Don't drink too much or take drugs for the boredom. It doesn't help, and can escalate damn quick.
Travel light. Your position now can be played to your advantage. Hear me out. As you get on a bit, your mates will start doing things like getting nice steady jobs and renting little houses with matching kettles and toasters and little bits of wall art. Don't get jealous. Don't start buying shite. Your experience now will make you so more resilient if you don't copy them. Instead, use the fact you have fuck all (for now) to move where the work is, or where the education opportunities are etc. You will naturally not be settled for a bit. It's scary but it's ok. Don't be bound by possessions. Get out there. There's plenty of time to buy sofas and nest. Just not yet.
You have nothing to lose. Pretty soon after I was homeless I got a job in London cooking for actual royalty. Was I exceptional as a chef? Fuck no. Was I able to grab the opportunity to go and do it because I had nothing to lose? Damn right. It's ironic that 18 months after I was in that awful shelter people were actually jealous of my life! (Bear in mind, I still had fuck all at this point. I lived in a cupboard. I had some clothes and a walkman. Some cunt mugged me for the walkman in tooting Bec station too. Bastard). Point is, you can just go do stuff that others can't. It's liberating.
You gotta do what you gotta do to survive. That's the grim reality. I never was a criminal, but I can admit to nicking food and deodorant and stuff when I absolutely had to. I certainly wouldn't advocate that, but my point is you need to learn to feed and clothe yourself almost for free. Lidl used to sell noodles for 9p a pack (they are 16p now, at least the aldi version). I lived off them. Charity shops for clothes. I looked like a tramp for a bit but so what? I knew things would get better. Plus I kinda was a tramp anyway.
Banks are gonna offer you credit left right and centre now you are 18. Tell them to fuck off. Now is not the time. It's gonna feel like free money. It ain't. Your 500 quid overdraft will quickly become your default 0. Don't let that happen. You're gonna be more susceptible to debt as you don't have a safety net.
Save. No, I'm serious. Save what little you have. Watch your microspends. They really add up. Instead, do microsaves, where you put tiny bits of money to one side. Why the fuck would I do that I hear you ask? See above really. You have no safety net. So make one. And get used to doing it. This skill will be invaluable.
On reflection, it sounds like I'm saying life will be doom and gloom. I'm not. Mine wasn't. Oddly, that time sticks in my memory so much as a free, exciting and fun time, you forget about the hunger and the boredom and emptying fag ends into rizlas to make a cigarette (I'm not proud of it, but as I said, you gotta do...) Point is, all the stuff I saw others do I've eventually done as well. I've got a house, an investment property, steady job, ex wife, the whole 9 yards. Difference between me and my friends was that I was later than them to the party. So fucking what? All the cool people arrive late. And in any case, I was having way too much fun on the way there.
There is only one final destination in life, the rest is all a journey. Enjoy it. Your experience will make you the toughest, most carefree and resilient version of yourself if you let it. You will get there, I promise. You're just taking a scenic route.
Apply for universal credit
Sorry about your mom. That sucks
Thank god you are in the UK. Support for your type of situation is non-existent in USA. Take any assistance you are offered, and most importantly, when you are on your
You probably know this already but if you can make something cheaper, don't buy it premade. I knew many people who were in dept every month and couldn't see why, yet they were spending £5 a day on coffee and cake at work. It might not seem like much at the time but it definitely adds up.
Considering the time of year, if you can afford it, go to a second hand/charity shop and get the warmest clothing you can find. Wool or anything stuffed with down is going to help best the cold if you do end up on the streets. Cotton is fine but if it gets wet it takes ages to dry and will chill your core, potentially lethally. At the worst, stuff your clothes with balls of newspaper, you might look silly but you'll be warmer. Keep your shirts tucked in and your trousers tucked into your socks to really help keep the heat in. What skills do you have? You said you're 18, have you considered applying for university? If you can get a student loan you stay at halls of residence for the first year and having a degree will help you get a better job if you pick right. If not, ask around in kitchens, restaurants etc and ask if they need a pot washer/kitchen porter. It's hard work for basic pay, but it often goes late into the night which means for half the night you're in a hot kitchen getting paid. Do your best to take care of your appearance regardless, and for the love of God don't get caught in the trap of taking drugs to escape reality because suddenly you're 20 years homeless and your brain is fried, it makes getting out of homelessness so much harder. Contact your local council and see what resources they have available, universal credit as well. Good luck, let us know how it goes.
Most colleges in the UK have accomodation available to students in your position. Contact a tutor you trust or the student advice representative and see what's available to you.
You will also be able to get all sorts of assistance to keep you in education so if you're looking at uni call the student support centres at your shortlist and explain your position.
r/frugal. they spend as little as possible.
condolences to your mum.