you are not alone my friend
Thank you for replying. Thought I was the only one because literally no one that I know has it. Do u know anything that can help with it?
I get a serious stutter whenever I'm nervous not sure if that's what you mean
I think OP means that they freeze and cannot talk because their words are stuck... that’s something that has happened to me so idk it’s just a guess
I call it my “roulette wheel”. It’s like somebody asks me a question, then I think about the cumulative responses that I could choose and which would be most appropriate for the circumstances. It’s like someone is tossing a roulette ball into my roulette wheel and you just have to let it slow down for a sec.
Me too. I get anxious about being anxious and everything goes to hell from there.
Yesss exactly. 💀💀
i do too. and i make up new words! because im trying say something and i say two words in one
Yeah this or I’ll have two phrases stuck in my head and I’ll jumble them together somehow
It’s not just you.
Plan what you will say before hand then practice speaking it alone ! When saying it, pretend that you are alone and no one is there ! Also helps to remember that they are human and piss and shit just like you, they aren’t perfect !
Thank you really helpful
Na bro it is normal
It is normal to happen! But you need to train and specially think about what to say in specific situations
Thanks for replying, it was helpful.
As relatable as normal my dear..
For me, it got bad and came out of nowhere. Somewhere in my early years out of high school, I had some sort of revelation where I realized just how annoying or bad or wrong or dense or whatever I could be. Not necessarily “me” but that all people are capable of it, and we’ve all done it. I got super cautious of my words and almost afraid to say something I didn’t mean, even if it isn’t a big deal. (Chocolate or vanilla ice cream? Well chocolate alone, but vanilla with toppings...but sometimes I am just in the mood for chocolate so maybe....) it can range from mundane things to actual social issues/ideas or life stances. What I’ve learned is that I need to know my audience. If it’s a coworker asking how my evening went, I say Good. Nothing more because they need nothing more from that. That answer is enough. Now if it’s a friend, then I can elaborate and I don’t have to worry as much an out the specifics. They know me, and they’ll give me a chance to correct myself. If it’s other things, like a boss or someone needing a more elaborate response, I simply take a moment (a second or two), gather my thoughts, and I say what is asked of me. Just be honest and do my best. Don’t try rambling on more because that will cause more confusion for yourself, and try saying direct statements. (If you feel you sound too blunt, that’s okay. Worrying about not being blunt is often what causes us to freeze or stutter.)
Thank you so much for replying, really helpful.
Me too. One of my worst experience was when I had to introduce a group of managers to their new recruits. I had worked with these guys for months & knew all their names, but my brain was just like....zip...nothing.
It was so embarrassing, but it was just another day, among many days - some better, some worse.
Don’t be too hard on yourself.
What helps me is to set my intention for how I want the day/meeting/session to go. Eg. “My intention is to be clear & confident in my interactions” - even when I’m nervous - especially when I’m nervous.
This process helps to ground yourself & then know that, whatever happens, you’ve put your best foot forward.
Thanks for replying. Really helpful. :))
I generally mumble my words if I'm nervous. I don't always know what to respond with and sometimes it scares me if I feel like I've said the wrong thing
I studder a lot, and start sharking. you are not alone
This happens to me all the time. It’s like I realise I’m talking and then get anxious that I’m going to forget what to say, and as a result I DO end up forgetting what to say.
Its just you bro, go get that checked out
Discussing the merits of introversion. No posts re social anxiety (check about / sub info). Enjoy!