Posted by u/dailydoseoffeminity 14 hours ago
Its been 6 Months since I came out and started transitioning ( MtF ), my wife and I have never been happier, my kids love and accept me for who I am and coming out at work was breeze. I thought it would all be the opposite. Ask me anything!
No questions from me, but wanted to thank you for sharing- your courage and your absolute glow are super inspiring! Wishing you and your family all the good juju and love! It's so amazing how life changes changes for the better when we can truly be ourselves!
Thank you so much! Honestly, this community has helped me so much, and people who posted here have inspired me to finally be true to myself and others. By posting here, if I nudge 1 person to live their best life, Its all good. My journey was extremely „bumpy“ , still is, but its a journey worth doing.
This is so sweet! as a young Cis-Lesbian, I can assure you that you are indeed VALID! I wish the rest of my family supported gender transition though, oh well! I suppose I'm to young to really know to much at the moment (I'll be turning 14 this year) but I still see you as valid and I would love to grow more knowledge on Trans-Lesbians! Now, may I ask you for your real name, INSTEAD of your deadname? 
Thank you sooo much, you are very kind!
You may ask me anything you wish :) My name is Nina, how about you? Its a pleasure to meet you!
No questions, just want to say YOU GO GIRL!!
Thank you!
That's great I'm so happy for you 🥳
Thank you darling!
Six month transition crew represent! Seriously, I was so scared at the start, and things have been **so good**. Congratulations, and keep on rolling!
I am happy it has turned out good for you. All in all, regardless of how good it goes, its better to live a crappy life as yourself than a ok life as a fake persona :)
How do you come out to homophobic transphobic parents cause I recently discovered that I am trans (mtf) and they would say I’m too young to know my gender but I know that it feels right but they always say about my trans friends that being 13-12 is too young to know so now I’m worried cause they also don’t know that I’m pan
Hey, I am happy to hear that you have come to terms with your gender. Now as for your question, when you are 12-13 years old, anything you say to your parents wont be taken seriously, they will simple write it off saying „ they are a teenager, its those years, they‘ll get over it „ . Beeing a teen is hard and its a time when no one takes you seriously. I cant tell you what and how exactly you should do since we all have different lives, however I can state my opinion since I was a trans teen, and I am a parent now my kids are (4 and 2 years old though ). If I were you and I were sure that my parents were homophobic, I wouldnt even bother coming out to them, since it cant do me any good, its not like they will stop being homophobic all of a sudden. I too didnt come out to my parents because they were homophobic and only started my transition with 26, and honestly I have no regrets. Its not an option I recommend , since I suffered a lot inside. I know my answer didnt help you much, its important you do what you think is right.
No questions, but you look great! That haircut suits your face perfectly!
Thank you very much!
No questions, but you look great!
Thank you !
I am so happy for you!!! I do have a question. Any advice for a young person who wants to transition? I was born female and I currently identify as nonbinary, but I still don't feel right. I feel more comfortable identifying as male and using he/him pronouns. But I am scared to tell my friends and family.
Dont be scared or ashamed of being who you are ... real friends will be there for you no matter what :)
Good going, Nina - congrats to you, your wife and fam, and friends. Glad to hear you have an entire village of support!
Thank you very much for the support!
6 months?! Looks like you started transitioning a lifetime ago. You look so feminine and beautiful!
Thank you sooo much
How does it feel to be living your truth? Congratulations and you look beautiful!!
Thank you! Happy cake day!
So happy for you! Look at that confident smile! You look great <3
Thank you very much :)
How old are your children?
4 and 2
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I have 2 kids ( 4y and 2y ). The younger one is too small to care, and with the older one it took some time for him to get used to seeing me like this. For him it was definitely weird that I am the way I am and actually didnt want me to go out looking like this. Now, he calls me beautiful … The transition is hard for kids too, but the younger they are, the better it is I think
Beautiful! 😍
Thank you!
AWWW thats so cuteeee
Gave me a smile, so happy for you!! And your wife and kids sound amazing. Best wishes to you and your family <3
Thank you so much love!
How did you tell your children?
They are 4 and 2 years old, so I kinda explained it the way I could and that was it
I have a question! What do you think is the best flavour of muffin?
I would go with chocolate :)
One question, how are you so beautiful?
I am blushing! Thank you darling
How did you get your hair thag length in 6 months. I’m at 9 and it’s not there yet
Well, I bought the hair on amazon 😅 my own hair is like a pixie cut at the moment :(
That's awesome!! It's so cool that everyone is supporting you <3
Thank you!
Go you girls! Well done on finding each other and for being so brave :)
Thank you darlin!
Were your kids confused, shocked or possibly worried at first?? Also congrats :)
Thanks! They are 4 and 2 years old so my transition went smoothly with them... Down the line, as they grow up I will have some explaining to do, but for now , all good
where do you live?
Germany 🇩🇪 beaufiful country with just as beautiful people
First congrats! So amazing. Question: How quickly/what did you start implementing into your life around your family to transition?
Thank you! Unforunately I dont understand the question, would you mind elaborating it a bit? Thanks :)
How did you get the courage? And any pointers for coming out at work?
Didnt have the courage but decided I cant lie anymore.
I came out like this: First I sat down with my best friend / coworker and told them... after that settled down and we talked everything through, I came out to 3 more friends at work, after that, I came out to ceo and explained what is happening and that there will be some slow changes to my appearance... after that I sent a company wide email explaining that I am trans and will be starting my transition soon. I didnt ask them to use my new pronouns or name since I still presented male and Informed them that once I feel comfortable enough , I will start presenting female... several months passed and I sent another email where i told everyone my new name and that from that day forrward I will be presenting female... and thats about it... everything worked out fine :) there are people who do not approve of my life choices , but so far nobody said anything :)
Omg ur beautiful!! Congratulations, I’m super proud xx
Thank you very much darling!
this is the future that liberals want
not a q but you’re so gorgeous!!
Thank you very much :)
I’m so glad you are surrounded by supportive people who love and celebrate you. Congratulations of coming out. It’s a huge accomplishment. Have you had any negative responses from friends or family? If so, how are you dealing with it? How’s your emotional/mental health after coming out?
Some of my friends slowly stopped talking to me, my mom wont speak to me at all, and thats about it. However, I dont mind that its like that. Those people are out of my life and the negativity I felt from them is gone too, so I feel free. I definitely feel 1000 times better than before... at the beginning of the transition, it all sucked, I felt like there was this dark cloud over me all the time... that is slowly fading away and it is all good now... Life is like that, sometimes its good, sometimes its bad, sometimes its neither, once you come to terms with those facts, you know that after some terrible times, there will be some good ones
I love how everyone was completely fine with it. Hey so I bet you and your wife does shopping days a lot for clothing?
Thank you! It took a lot of hard work, communication, honesty to get where we are at the moment. It was a bumpy ride, still is, but its getting better. Thats life. If its all going good, something is not right
Wait, only 6 months? That's kinda amazing ngl
Thank you! I did have 5 laser sessions and should start hormones in about a month
You look fantastic there! And I am glad that you have such a nice and accepting family and workplace as well!
Thank you very much , I wish the same for everybody
Question How can I have it this good
Good question! Thank you btw! Cant really answer it though
That’s amazing!!!!!!! Congrats!!!!!
Thank you!
I’m scared to come out to my wife because she is seven months pregnant. Do you recommend any special way I should come out? I was going to make her breakfast in bed and have my son deliver her the breakfast with a note, then I come in about two minutes later. I feel like if she has a transphobic reaction, it will make her more controlled if our son is there.
In my opinion, thats not the right way to come out. Especially having such big and heart chrushing news delivered via note, via kid. Have a sitdown with your wife, dont state : hey I am trans! Instead, explain your feelings and ask her for help and for her opinion. Part of my success story is that I have a hands-on approach and did everything by communicating and explaining. Be honest, and talk. Its gonna take a lot of talking, trust me. For me and my wife it was also very hard and we were on the brink of destruction for quite some time. I told her about my feelings 3 years ago and we took it step by step after that. Even when I started my transition 6 months ago it was like we were again at first step. But we talked, shared, and its all been going good now. Our relationship has gotten stronger over time. Our partners need time to process things thats why its important to start slowly and work your way up there
I'm really glad to see this and to hear the good and the happy stories too. So important because people might see and think 'if their family and others can accept and support and love my person/partner/kid/sibling/friend/whoever, maybe I can'. And congratulations on...*being you*. And clearly, your wonderful and supportive family. I wish all had that. But it's also why sharing is powerful. A little positive that can also show those on their own journeys that *it really could be okay*. Plus your photo looks confident and that always looks great on anyone. (And you are rocking that hair style).
Exactly! Thank you very much for taking the time to comment. We all need positivity in our lives to counteract the negative stuff we get served with every day.
What do you work in? I’m nervous to come out because I work at a ski resort and I don’t know if the people there would be very accepting.
I work as a marketing manager for a smaller ( 100 employees ) car parts wholesale company. Honestly, I habe had a bit of luck, and when I came out, I only got positive reactions. There are people who dont approve of the transition and are maybe transphobic but I dont care about them. The people who matter will stay on your side. There were people at work who didnt like me before transition, and there are people who dont like me now. I came out to the coworkers who I trusted, and once I had them on my side and knew „ ok , even if everything goes wrong, I still have these 2 friends as support, its good“ … my advice for anyone coming out at work is to do it as follows: - first come out to people you care about and have good relationships with, one by one .. give them time to process it, and dont do it over text or meme, do it in person if possible and discuss it. Once that is done, you know who you can count on. After that, come to your boss and hr. And after that, come out to the whole company, if necessary.
I did it like this and it went very good. Its not a formula for universally good coming out, but I think it will work in most cases
omggg I love thiss🥺
Thank you!
What was your home life like at first with everyone adjusting?
Honestly, it was crappy, I felt alone, my wife did too, and it was a really depressing phase for both of us. But things like that pass, and we need to go through all of those emotions in order to finally feel free of it all
Anytime! Be nice!🙄
How do you get such nice hair🥺
40€ on Amazon 😀 my own hair is not that long its like a pixie cut at the moment
You are stunning and I'm so happy for you! Being able to be who you are is the best thing ever and I'm so glad you have had so much support. With all the best for you and your family 💜
I absolutely love the way your hair frames your face!
What’s your new name? (I don’t want to know dead name Ik it is a hassle and shaming on you as a person)
Heyy, my name is Nina :)
Hi! First off I want to say that you look amazing and I'm so happy you're being supported! I feel a bit ignorant on some trans issues and would really apprecite it if you could educate me! I won't outright ask the question just in case you aren't comfortable with me asking
Hey, thank you veeeery much! You may ask anything you want, feel free to pm me :)
what where the effects of the hormones for you? (if you took any) I'm an non binary AMAB and questioning whether i want to take hormones or not
Good to know people are treating you with the respect and love you deserve.
Don’t need to ask anything. Just wanted to ride on your wave of happiness !!! And you look fabulous
Have you experienced any trans phobia? Also love the picture!
That's amazing! I'm so glad your family and colleagues support you, you look fabulous, queen!